Why Anger Is Bad
When most of us think of anger we think of violence and pain. We think of a loss of control and emotional turmoil. Anger can be a devastating force when it’s not controlled. Just like anything else, anger in the hands of an undisciplined person can be dangerous.
We can all name someone in our lives who has struggled with anger issues. Maybe you’ve struggled with it yourself, I know I have.
I’ve always been someone who has been blessed/cursed with strong emotions. It is both a blessing and a curse because although I am sometimes capable of feeling positive, enriching, empowering emotions on a deeper level, I’m also much more susceptible to negative, debilitating states of mind as well. It often takes great discipline and constant maintenance of my mind to remain productive. Maybe you can relate.
Anger, specifically, is such a strong emotion that it has to be controlled. And it is because it can be so difficult to control that we see it in such a negative light. Many horrible things have happened and are still happening every day because of anger.
So How Can Anger Be A Good Thing?
First of all, you have to realize that anger is a natural human emotion. It’s there for a reason…it has value.
Anger in itself is not inherently bad. It is simply a force of power, an internal combustion engine that, if channeled and controlled, can actually become a prime mover and a catalyst for positive change in your life.
Sometimes, all a person needs to break out of their self-imposed prison and better their life is to get mad enough about where they are to do whatever it takes to change. All of us have the power to change inside of us, but a sense of complacency born from fear of change often keeps us from even trying.
Healthy anger can break us out of that complacency like few things can.
One of my favorite movies is “The Pursuit of Happiness”. There’s a scene in that movie that I’ve embedded below that I think really illustrates the kind of anger I’m talking about.
In the above scene, Will Smith’s character gets mad, not in a destructive rage kind of way but in a controlled, empowering kind of way.
He recognizes something in himself that he doesn’t like, a limiting belief system. And he realizes in that moment that he’s imprinting his son with that same limiting belief system, stunting his emotional growth. The anger he feels with himself compels him to do what’s necessary to make it right.
Making A Choice
Like most things in life, you don’t have a choice about whether you feel angry or not. But you do, and always will, have a choice about how you react to it.
Most people take one of two paths. They either run away from it, repressing it as long as possible until it finally boils over at inappropriate times. Or they make a habit of giving full vent to their frustrations, fuming and spraying their anger all over any poor soul who happens to get in their way.
Both approaches are devastating to personal relationships.
It’s much more difficult to choose to discipline yourself and learn to channel those feelings into constructive activities like personal change, or art, or business, to use that energy to build something rather than destroy…but it’s worth it.
Hope you enjoyed the post…
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🙂 Shawn Smith